Becoming Unequally Yoked

I know, it’s a weird title but bear with me!

Hi, I’m Misty, the “believer” in this story and I’m going to tell you about the time I brought my “unbelieving” husband’s list of transgressions to God.

I know you’re probably thinking, “What does that have to do with Chapter 7?” In verse 13, Paul says, “Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce her husband.”

Well Mr. Paul, why would I leave my husband just because I rededicated my life? That’s absurd thinking!

And just like that, the Holy Spirit so politely reminded me, “Hey do you remember that time….”

Ugh……”Yes, yes I do!”

This particular day I was all up in my feelings. Life was being so disrespectful and cruel. I was touched out, exhausted, pouring every drop of me into everything and everyone else without receiving anything positive in return. Both my husband and son were picking my last nerve like a banjo string in a banjo pickin’ contest. I was OVER IT! And I was about to tell God ALL about it and He was going to fix Chris. (That’s my husband in case you were wondering.)

I ranted. I raved. I shook my fists at the sky. And I fussed and fussed. I started reading off that long list of all the things he was or wasn’t doing, did, or even possibly would potentially do.

“He’s not doing this, he’s not doing that. If he won’t be my Boaz, I’m not going to be his Ruth.”

“He’s not loving me like Christ loves the Church.”

“Proverbs 31 woman is canceled from this day forward until I get the treatment I feel I deserve.”

“Maybe I should just leave. It would be easier and a whole lot less stressful.”

I said all of that. Out loud. With all of my chest and with all of the sass my little body contains. I was full-on toddler tantrum wrapped up in pity party mode.

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His response left me floored, speechless, and “clutching my pearls.” The gasp I gasped. If it would’ve been a physical slap, it would’ve been heard worldwide.

“You seem to be more worried about what your unsaved husband has to answer for than what your saved self does.”

……….SILENCE……….

not even crickets could find the chirps to chirp.

I stood there staring at the floor for what felt like forever trying to decide if I wanted to walk away from this conversation or lean in a little closer.

In all God’s goodness, He waited patiently like the gentleman He is for my decision.

Finally, I dropped to my knees and said, “Ok, I’m listening.”

The loving Father we all know wraps me in His love and says,

“My daughter, I know you. I know your heart and your desire for his salvation but you CANNOT put saved rules on an unsaved situation. He doesn’t even know who Boaz is. He can’t be who he doesn’t know. But you, My child, know differently. I know what the world is telling you. You need to turn down the volume on the world and focus on My voice. Continue to do what I’ve called you to do. He sees Me.”

Friends……FRIENDS! Let me tell you…..WHAT AN ENCOUNTER!

That day left a mark on me and has forever changed how I see my husband and our marriage.

So, sisters and brothers, if you’re like me and your marriage became unequally yoked through your salvation, there is hope. God is using you. He has given your spouse front-row seats to see His goodness. I know it can be hard and frustrating but stand firm. Jesus never said it would be easy. He said it would be worth it!

Love y’all and take care!

Until next time …….